It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some loves grow, and it is a mystery why some loves fail. You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do any more than take the life out of the experience.
Love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its time, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.
You need to treat what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart.
If you find someone else in love with you toward whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love will deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are very different.
If you fall in love with another who falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself will choose the moment.
Remember this and keep it in your heart. You don’t choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it to you. Give it to others who seem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.
Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. If it chooses to leave your heart or the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will surely come again.
- Kent Nerbern
(Source: Spotify)
this is the contents of my head.
waiting to exhale. just gotta keep a constant mindset to keep my chin up, and put on a smile on even though it’s pretty broken. but once in a while, i let them fall to release that sadness eating me up inside.
sometimes i feel ok, which lets me know that i can be 100% with time. i learned a lot about myself in that relationship, loved the best i could, loved unselfishly, and but sometimes things like that are simply not enough.
just gotta be strong and finish up this sorry chapter in my life so that i can start fresh, independently, and happily. i’ve done it before and i can do it again.
BLOWS MY MIND: one red paperclip
This story is already five years old, but it’s new to me and I really like it!
thank god for g.o.o.d fridays
bougie and big headed.. just what i was lookin fo
Kanye West (feat. Kid Cudi, Pusha T, John Legend, Lloyd Banks, & Ryan Leslie) - Christian Dior Denim Flow
bittersweet poetry and my life in lies
“home.. somewhere behind me.. for miles that remind me that nothing stays the same..”
—- now, i’m just here.. stuck in limbo.. bitter.. haha
on another note,
last week, i attempted to pick up a snail and was so horrified when i removed it’s shell on accident. for 22 years, i totally thought they were attached and therefore thought that i basically ripped it’s arm off.. panicking, i placed the shell back on the slug part of the little fella and i ran away from disgust and shame. and that little man just shrugged and scooted away with his home like nothing happened.
i never knew that was even possible…. i hate when you find out your whole life was a lie.. (not really, i like it :) ) & the list keeps growing–
also see: triceratops, brontosaurus, pluto, my favorite hip hop music is sampled, painted roman statues, rainbow sherBET NOT sherBERT
HAHA
simple abundance
“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.” - Margaret Young
Happiness and satisfaction are on my mind and I CAAN’T STOP thinking about it. This is why I’m constantly frustrated here and something doesn’t quite feel right? I keep blaming it on people, places, anything that is an obstacle, maybe.. So I guess what I’m saying is that maybe I need to overcome these obstacles in some way instead of accept/reject them. And I need to know where I see myself to actually get myself there.
be still
it’s crazy how music can take you back and evoke specific emotions that you felt at that specific point in your life.
SF Foodtography
Mama’s: a cinchy 15 minute wait for our delicious breakfast of banana pancakes.. I normally don’t like pancakes but these i WILL have
San Tung’s Dry Fried Chicken.. it was real DELICIOUS but I am STILL chinese fooded outted from my China trip!
Bi-Rite ASS CREAM!!! Sampled the Balsamic Strawberry and Salted Caramel which were STUPID GOOD and different than anything I’ve ever had! Had a two scoops of White Chocolate with Blackberry Swirl– tripped me out because it was white, but tasted like chocolate– WHAT!!!!
La Boulange, shared the openface turkey sandwich and openface tunamelt– both SO good.
Bob’s Donuts for Dessert; The name is generic and the store looks ordinary.. but let me tell you that this here Chocolate Buttermilk Donut.. i could say is the best donut i’ve ever had. The batter is pancake-tasting, and there is no overwhelming sweetness. We were stuffed silly from La Boulange but Bob’s was good enough to help us faggotaboutit.
Cups and Cakes; had the Pretty Pretty Princess, strawberry on strawberry– was really good and had minimal artificial flavor. Bey had the Rich Red Velvet, he didn’t really like it because the cream cheese was overpowering but overall it was good and easy to eat.. Sprinkles is still the champion.
IKE’S! One of the best sandwich places ever. They have huge variety of sandwiches, over 100 to choose from; I got the 16th and Market which was just chicken, bacon, avacado, and swiss, Bey got Name of Girl I’m Dating, & Ryan had the Do You Smell What Barack is Cookin’… they had other hilarious names like the Fat Bastard and HELLA Fat Bastard but I already indulged so much that day I couldn’t do it. The wait total was like 3 hours but we called in earlier so less time wasted standing around! The bread it’s served on is called Dutch Crunch and it made the sandwich THAT much better.
On the way home Bey and I cried as we devoured my leftovers.. “This sandwich was from San Francisco :(”